Tips and Resources #30

To seek the well-being of others

YOUR CHILD IS WATCHING TO SEE THIS:

How important seeking the best for others is to you. Your child may not be aware of this ongoing process, but this information is surely stored in their minds and used as they mature into adulthood. Following the five Tips listed below are product reviews, testimonials or product descriptions as resources for you.

Tip #1: That you seek to make others happy because it makes you at peace with the way your life is going.

52 Nice Things to Do to Make Someone Happy . What a wonderful little book. "52 Ways to Make Someone Happy" offers wonderful suggestions of things to do to make anyone feel "special". I particularly liked #42 ... clever, inexpensive gifts. Nope ... I'm not gonna reveal them. I guess you'll have to buy the book and find out for yourselves.

Tip #2: That you seek to build up the confidence of others.

To Understand Each Other . I keep re-reading this beautiful little book of wisdom about relationships. The author writes in such a gentle way, he inspires the reader to strive for deeper, more meaningful connection with others.

Theory of Mind: How Children Understand Others' Thoughts and Feelings . The understanding of belief is central to this text, which explains in simple terms what representational theory of mind is all about, and shows how researchers have demonstrated this understanding in 4-year-olds. The book considers what leads to this understanding, including the role of pretend play, understanding of attention and eye direction, and other precursors to representational understanding of mind. The general relevance of theory of mind is demonstrated through coverage of the development of other mental state concepts, and the relationship between understanding mental representation and other representational media.

Tip #3: That you seek to expand the horizons of others.

Bringing Out the Best in People: How to Enjoy Helping Others Excel. There are actually a small number of principles used by good motivators, and the best leaders were using them long before psychology had a name. Fascinating case studies and anecdotes about Lee Iacocca, Sandra Day O’Connor, and many others show how you can put 12 key principles to work in your family or organization. Whether you are a parent, executive, teacher, or friend, you can gain the satisfaction that comes from Bringing the Best Out in People.

Bringing Out the Best in Others!: 3 Keys for Business Leaders, Educators, Coaches and Parents. "A common sense approach to performance enhancement. Read it and increase your probability of coaching success." -- Jack H. Llewellyn, Ph.D, Sports Psychologist/Consultant, Atlanta Braves

"Anyone interested in motivating people should read this book. It's Tom Connellan at his best!" -- Ken Blanchard, Co-author, The One Minute Manager ® and Wale Done! TM

"Bringing Out the Best in Others! shares learning and lessons for leaders at every level to energize their teams." -- J.W. Marriott, Jr., Chairman, Marriott International, Inc.

Tip #4: That you are willing to encourage and even play a role when others ask for help with new ideas.

The Extraordinary Coach: How the Best Leaders Help Others Grow. The authors collected 360-degree feedback assessments from some of the most effective leaders in business today and identified those who were excellent coaches. Then they combined the research with the latest findings from the worlds of psychology, adult development, and systems theory to map out the real science behind effective coaching. The result is a practical, evidence-based coaching system that can be applied in any type of business.

When you coach individuals to success, you lead your entire organization to success. This “interactive” package is exactly what you need to master one of today’s most critical business leadership skills.

What Really Helps: Using Mindfulness and Compassionate Presence to Help, Support, and Encourage Others . Despite our good intentions to help, we often hold back because we don’t know what to say or do—and we sometimes find that our best attempts to help end up making things worse. What are the best ways to provide emotional support, guidance, or encouragement to the people in our lives? Here is a book that provides answers, and that will be of special interest to helping professionals—as well as to anyone who wants to make a positive difference in the lives of people they care about.

Tip #5: That you do things that makes others feel good.

365 Manners Kids Should Know: Games, Activities, and Other Fun Ways to Help Children Learn Etiquette . Sheryl Eberly’s 365 Manners Kids Should Know gives clever and insightful advice for the myriad of situations where consideration counts, but is sometimes forgotten. Using her smart one-manner-a-day format, parents, grandparents, and even aunts and uncles can find practical ways to teach basic manners, such as:

* How to address elders when being introduced * How to write a thank-you note * The polite way to answer the telephone * How to accept and decline an invitation * What is expected at formal occasions such as weddings, funerals, and religious services

A Good Friend: How to Make One, How to Be One . This book advises children in such areas as the basics of conversation and friendship do's and don'ts. Included are nine easy-to-follow "people" skills such as giving and receiving compliments, introducing yourself, and showing respect and sensitivity, that put getting along with others into manageable steps. A special chapter deals with the challenge of shyness, giving kids practical advice on how to conquer it and grow in self-confidence. For ages 10 and up.